Life. It’s the greatest gift of all. But if we’re being honest – sometimes, it’s hard as shit. Sometimes life throws you a ball and instead of knocking it out of the park, it hits you directly in the jaw, completely leveling you onto your back and forcing you to stare off into space and remember just how hard you suck. You’re not alone. We’ve ALL been there, and will be there many more times.
So what do you do in troubled times like these? Two words: self care. Yes, that’s right. When life is shitting on you, take a day or evening to yourself and get YOUR shit back together. Dumped by your partner? Self-care. Didn’t get that promotion you wanted? Self-care. Just not feeling it? SELF. CARE. You are the most important person in your life and you need to make sure you’re good, homie. We’ve gone ahead and compiled a list of some stay-at-home, self-care date night ideas that you can turn to when the going gets tough.
1. The Trifecta: Clean your room, wash your sheets, and light a mother fucking candle.
I cannot stress how important this one is. When I’m feeling down, or having a rough week, I more often than not, let my room go a little off the rails if ya know what I mean. Food delivery bags, unwashed kitchen glasses, a graveyard of clothing covering every inch of the floor, and the list goes on. And when you’re already not feeling great, coming back to that hovel you’ve created for yourself, does not help. So – turn to the magic trifecta and it will improve the way you feel instantly. Clean your room. Throw on some of your favorite music and get to work. Wipe down your dresser, clean your mirror, take your trash out – DO IT ALL. Wash your bed sheets, use way more than the recommended number of dryer sheets, get that shit smelling GOOD. Then, get yourself a nice ass candle and light that bitch. Your bedroom is your sanctuary and the love and care you put into it will radiate and trickle down into other parts of your life.
2. Take the hottest shower or longest bubble bath of your life.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just whisk yourself away to the nearest 5-star spa, whip out your centurion card and say “I’ll take one of each please”? How great would that be? But for most of us, this just isn’t an option. So what do you do? You do the next best thing – turn your bathroom into the Palm Springs haven you deserve. Go out and get yourself a bath bomb, light some candles (candles are the solution to all of life’s difficult problems) pour yourself…hell, just grab a big straw and stick it into your favorite bottle of wine, put on your FAVORITE music and forget the world exists. Don’t worry about anything other than yourself. Take as much time as you need – stay in that thing until every drop of hot water from your entire block is gone. Between the four walls of this bathroom, you are the only thing that matters.
3. Face Mask
What would any stay at home self care spa extravaganza be without a face mask? It would be nothing. Absolutely nothing. Sometimes when life is swinging at you, your skin reacts. Stress can cause a whole bunch of problems and blemishes are one of the most common. So treat your skin to a nourishing and moisturizing face mask. You can find a bunch of super cheap and super good face masks on Amazon. Buy a handful in bulk and save them for a rainy day. You will feel refreshed and your skin will feel like the bomb.com.
4. Slip into your comfiest clothing.
Whether it be your favorite pair of leggings, your most comfortable sweats, or your favorite t shirt – put it on. Hell, maybe your favorite outfit is not an outfit at all and you want to walk around your apartment naked. Go for it! 1-800-DO-YOU-BOO.
5. Order your favorite food because fuck it.
It’s your night, and what kind of sadistic monster would you be if you didn’t order yourself your favorite comfort food? I love this one the most because it allows me to life the guilt gate and frolic freely into whatever the fuck I want to eat land. Mac and cheese? You bet. A steak and french fries? Yup. McDonalds or Taco bell? HOW ABOUT BOTH! Order whatever your heart and stomach desires and don’t you dare look back. Just be sure to drink lots of water because your body is a temple, right?
6. Binge your favorite shows or movies.
You’ve got nothing but time at this point. So snuggle yourself into those freshly washed sheets, or plop yourself on your living room sofa with a candle on the table and blanket wrapped around your body, and transport yourself out of this world and into another. Movies and TV shows are great because they allow us to forget about everything that’s going wrong in our world, and embrace positivity through a good story. Pick your favorite feel-good classic, whether it be a Disney movie from childhood, or a Mary Kate and Ashley banger from your early teens. Try and stick to the positive films (we’re sad and depressed, remember?) we don’t want to back track the progress we’ve made this evening.
7. Call your bestie.
Sometimes, the best solutions to life’s many problems is a 3-hour phone call with your best friend. This is the universal antidote that has been keeping humanity sane for many generations. And it’s been around as long as it has because it freakin’ works people! Pick up your cellphone or laptop, dial them up, and vent away all of your problems. It’s way cheaper than therapy.
8. Take a nap.
For me personally, the power and authority to just stop what you’re doing and take a nap just because is an invigorating experience. Naps are great because not only do they re-energize us, they also allow us to forget about our problems for a few hours (yeah that’s right – a few hours.) Sometimes if you’re feeling stressed or anxious, a power nap can be the cure. Lay your weary head on that pillow, close those eyes, and drift into the best nap of your life.
There you have it. 8 simple ideas for a self-care date when the going gets tough. They may not work for everyone and every situation, and it’s important to recognize when to ask for professional help. If you’re experiencing signs and symptoms of depression or having suicidal thoughts you should consult the direction of a licensed professional and remember that YOU FUCKING MATTER.