Tips For LGBTQ+ People As Well As Their Parents & Allies This Holiday Season
The holidays for most, are a joyous time filled with good food, laughter, family and friends, and reflection. Although this time can also be somewhat stressful for almost everyone, it can be especially stressful for members of the LGBTQ+ community. It can be a time of stress, difficulty, and even result in extreme sadness and depression, especially for those who aren’t currently, or feel as if they are unable to come out to their families. So what can we do about it? Well thankfully PFLAG has created an informational guide for both for people who are LGBTQ+ as well as their family and allies to help navigate these sensitive situations.
Check out some of the suggestions below and view the full information guide here on PFLAG’s website.
If you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community
Don’t assume you know how somebody will react to news of your sexual orientation or gender identity–you may be surprised.
Don’t wait for your family’s attitude to change to have a special holiday. Recognize that your parents and family may need time to acknowledge and accept that they have an LGBTQ+ family member. It took you time to come to terms with who you are; now it is your family’s turn.
If you are transgender, be gentle but firm with unintentional pronoun “slips.” Let your loved ones know that you understand how difficult this journey may be for them–and don’t hesitate to remind them when it happens how much harder it is for you to hear.
If you are the friend or family member, or loved one of the LGBTQ+ person
Get support for yourself. Find the phone number of the nearest PFLAG chapter.
- Take your time. Acceptance may not come instantly, but be honest about your feelings in an appropriate place.